Closing in on a Killer WOMEN TALK ABOUT BREAST SURGERY; From Diagnosis to Recovery: How to Go Through It in the Smartest, Calmest Way, By Amy Gross and Dee Ito (Clarkson Potter, 1990: $22.95; 333 pp.) DR. SUSAN LOVE'S BREAST BOOK, By Susan M. Love, MD, with Karen Lindsey (Addison-Wesley, 1991: $13.95, paper; 455 pp.) MY BREAST: One Woman's Cancer Story, By Joyce Wadler (Addison-Wesley: $16.95; 206 pp.) - Kaufman, Margo (Los Angeles Times (pre-1997 Fulltext))